There seems to be a theme in my resolutions.
I am nearing thirty and clearly feeling my age.
I find myself worrying about acting too young, or being one of those people that refuse to grow up.
Being old terrifies me, but being old and refusing to accept reality is even scarier.
I don't want to be in my thirties and still scrambling. Still living loose.
It's a delicate balance, trying to stabilize but not become rooted. To be steady, but not weighted down.
First, I want to look the part.
I've neglected my wardrobe for far too long. I've always liked
clothes, but have always had too many interests, too many personalities
to stick with a certain aesthetic. In addition, spending money on clothes was never a priority, if
there was extra money it went towards adventures. Why spend money on clothes when I could spend it on experiences?
However, lately I've found myself yearning to look more complete. To
look a little more polished. I'm still perfectly happy in jeans and a
hoodie, but as my personality is growing up, so is
my wardrobe. Or it should. Or maybe it has
less to do with getting older, and more that living here has completed
me. Being in Arizona made me restless and itchy and who could care about
clothes when all I wanted to do was immerse myself in events to make
myself forget that I was unhappy in my location?
But here, here I find peace. The proximity of the ocean soothes my soul
and acts as a balm for all that is restless and wild in me. It's still
to be seen if this is a permanent fix, but now that I am no longer thrashing about I can look around me, look
down at me, and realize that I want my outer appearance to match my inner.
Second, I want to clean up the clutter in my life.
This covers a few things, financial, daily, emotionally and physically.
San Diego is expensive but I make good money and if I can stick to a
budget it's more than doable. So. It's time to buck up and start keeping
track of where all my money goes. My daily life is such a whirlwind. I
have plenty of time to do things. Yet I am
either very lazy and do nothing, or going nonstop. This is silly.
Although I detest routine, I need to plan things out just a little bit
better. Fit everything in. Working out, fun, cleaning, grocery
shopping... there is time for it all, I just need to budget
my time. As far as cleaning up the clutter emotionally, basically I
think writing will help with that. My job is stressful and if I don't
empty my head a few times a week, it builds. Writing, whether publically
or privately, needs to be more of a priority.
Plus, I have all these unfinished storylines of friendships and
relationships and even though most can't be resolved, writing helps
sort and put some of those stories in perspective. The clutter in me
physically is the most important and the easiest to fix.
Stop eating junk and work out. Eating junk is expensive
and bad for my body. I need to start to grocery shop, cook a few times a week and stop making excuses.
So for 2014 I have three words that sum up what I want to focus on.
Immerse: In water, in experiences, in life. Put the phone down, dunk
myself in salt water weekly, stop isolating and engage in all
relationships. This year I want to really focus on immersing myself in
music and fun and peace and breathtaking sights and
danger. No wait, I mean excitement. and danger.
Stabilize: Time to be a grown up. Stabilize a budget, time to workout, writing time, and basically clean up the clutter in my life.
Document: Write more, take pictures. I have this amazing life and all
I have is a bunch of pictures of my dogs. Which, while adorable, does
not sum up my life.
How's that for a new years resolution?